It’s now widely discussed that, due to a lack of sex ed in school, young people are learning about sex from porn.
Oral sex isn’t rocket science, so why, if you’re a straight girl, is head so often either terrible or nonexistent? All that spitting and sucking and vagina slapping: What is going on there? To my knowledge, I don’t have an abnormally sensitive vagina, but if someone slaps it, or slurps at it like it’s a trough, any subsequent screaming will be out of pain, not pleasure. Not to mention that when you meet the rare guy who’s up for going down, he’s often remarkably bad at it. I recently met a guy who, while flirting with me at a party, said, “Just so you know, I’m the kind of guy who cares about making a girl cum.” He then stared at me in anticipation, as if waiting for me to faint, or for celebratory balloons to fall from the ceiling. I half expect them to say “You’re welcome” afterward. And how else does one get what one wants out of sex than by talking about it? So I’ll go first: I don’t understand why so many men act like, by giving head, they’re doing you a favor. But I find that it’s next to impossible to talk about sex without getting specific. I realize that I’m being, shall we say, candid.
